well its been awhile, i have settled the alimony payments with my soon to be exwife, who by the pro-bible and pro-marriage state of Virginia has had the 'lawful' (read as not morally) right to claim spousal alimony for 2 years after the marriage has ended. Which means a total of 3 years i have been giving this person money for being a part of the failure of the marriage.

I know people dont really read my shit and thats fine, im just writing to have a place to write.

so this will probably be my last post in a really long time here in LJ land.

I would never be able to explain how wrong and painful it is to give someone something of yours that you fought so hard to get in return for nothing.

Do i regret getting married, well not really, its not the marriage i regret, its the person who changed.

i am happier now than i have been in years, time for a spring cleaning.

too bad i have to work twice as hard to make up for someone else not wanting to support themselves. if the roles were reversed....

Took a trip to Upstate New York for the extended weekend, it was really nice, got some nice pics with my camera, i plan on getting printed out and framed. I did some experiments with long exposure and fire, THAT was fun

i found some crazy Icelandic Vodka that tastes EXACTLY like icelandic moonshine, of course i bought some and of course i drank too much. lol

The EX is draggin the divorce out as long as possible, i dont really see the point personally, she is seeking post divorce alimony and possible marital asset reimbursement, including the already monthly spousal support she is getting (12k over 12 months). hopfully i can have everything behind me in 6 months. i think i will make a list of things i will NOT do in my next relationship, i think Nr 1 will be make sure i dont support them through their career that they quit so they can leech off of me until we split up so she can make me pay for her being lazy. and before you say it , yes i am bitter, wouldnt you be?

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so yes, i have moved, yes im getting a divorce, we will see how long the precedings drag out. Because my ex sued for Abandonment i may not get the final divorce for 12 months.

I am resisting the urge to defend myself, i dont need other people to reinforce my beliefs and reasons nor do i need to explain myself to anyone.

with that said

I have been spending alot of time riding my Motorcycle and letting my mind relax.

I will have to get a second job in the evenings because i cannot keep up with my bills from the divorce for the next 12 months. crazy i know...

im happy that i have a great circle of friends here, i dont think i will be moving the next few years, i want to move when i am ready